Showing posts with label past due. Show all posts
Showing posts with label past due. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Say What You Mean

You do not have to be induced. No matter what they say. No matter what you say. Even when medically indicated!

*Gasp* Am I proclaiming that you shouldn't get an induction when medically indicated?  No, of course not. But that's you're choice! And that is the point I am making.

I am so tired of hearing women say "I had to get induced because..." You did not HAVE to get induced! You do not HAVE to be induced!

In regards to medically indicated inductions

Please, I implore you, for the sake of birth in our society, consider your words carefully. Because how we speak, how we think, how we view birth matters; it truly, truly makes a difference for women around us and for future generations. What are we teaching our daughters and their future husbands when we say "I had to"? We are teaching them and those around us that it is not their birth, it is that of the institution. Semantics are incredibly powerful. The correct terminology in the case of your suggested medical induction would be, "My care provider recommended induction" And then, do your research or look within or pray, whatever your general go-to method is when between a rock and a hard place. It IS your choice to allow or decline your care provider's suggested induction. Take responsibility for your birth- after all, it's your body, your baby, your birth, your choice.

I urge you, to know and understand what true medical indications for induction are. Take responsibility for your choice.

Did you know: 

According to the NNEPQIN Post maturity (gestational age <41 weeks) is an elective induction.
ACOG, Mayo Clinic and American Family of Family Physicians all discourage the elective induction or scheduled cesarean for reason of a "big baby."
Childbirth Connection and Evidence Based Birth also have a lot to say about inductions.
Lamaze International says
When it comes to choosing a birthday, baby knows best.
UpToDate says
Delivery before the onset of labor is indicated when the maternal/fetal risks associated with continuing the pregnancy are thought to be greater than the maternal/fetal risks associated with early delivery
Your due date is not an expiration date 

In regards to elective inductions

The truth is, well you know what the truth is. 

I'll say it again, semantics are powerful. 

"I had to be induced because I'm overdue" means "I'm sick of being pregnant so I've decided to force my baby out because I went past my guess date"  

As I said before, your due date is not an expiration date. You have options.

Sometimes, women feel - due to family circumstances, such as spouse availability, family being in town to help after baby is born, striving to get all of that maternity leave - that they must induce. In these circumstances, please, please, understand the real hormones involved and the importance of labor. Understand, as said before, you should be choosing the lesser of two evils. It is your choice, I give you that but be responsible for it and responsible for what you say, because semantics are powerful. Did you hear me yet? Semantics are incredibly powerful; we are shaping the way our society views birth, not just now but for future generations. So please, if you've chosen an induction for convenience, stop saying "I need to be induced" because you don't! You are choosing to be induced. Furthermore, you should never feel pressured into an induction. "My care provider says I have to be induced" is not, in and of itself, a valid reason for induction. Your care provider may recommend and induction but in the end it is your choice to accept or decline. You do not have to show up! Make an informed choice that supports your birth, your body, your baby and your desires.

To induce or not to induce. That is the question. And it is just that, a question, a suggestion, an intervention. This is your Journey of Life -own it!

Did you schedule your labor or let nature decide?

Monday, December 31, 2012

Due Date! Schmoo Date!


Make a reservation for you hotel stay, not for the day your baby is born.  Estimated Day of Arrival seems to me a better, less assuming term than Due Date.  When throughout your pregnancy you’ve recited time and time again a specific date in response to the infamous question “what’s your due date” it’s hard not to get fixated and wonder “where is my baby!?”  You’re excited for the newest addition for your family, the nursery is ready, diapers picked out and clothes hang in the closet.  With sleep and comfort are getting harder to come by it’s hard not to say baby is late when you go past your due date; but it’s not quite the truth.  Your “due date” is calculated from the first day of your last menstrual cycle, so when you're 40 weeks pregnant you are actually 38 weeks gestation and so forth. Furthermore, not every woman has the exact same cycle and every baby, every birth is different.  Naegele's Rule states that 50% of babies are born before and 50% are born after their “due date.”  The date you have recited over and over is simply the middle of a bell curve. If you're having a healthy pregnancy and baby is healthy, let baby pick his or her birthDay!


Fashionably late babies don’t actually become so until past 42 weeks! So kick back, relax and.....

1. Get your nails done, girl!
                                         You and baby will be seeing them soon ;-)
2. Enjoy a massage
                              Once your milk comes in it won't be quite as comfy
3. Go on a date with your partner
                                                  Cherish this time together as a twosome
4. Cherish this time with your other child(ren) before the family grows again
5. Take a nap
6. Stay up late and sleep in
7. Enjoy a walk (sans stroller)
8. See a movie
9. Plan and execute a "due date" party
10. Acupuncture anyone?
11. Indulge in a bubble bath
                                          Don't forget the candles
12. Turn on the tube for some uninterrupted screen time
13. Play a board game
14. Make a rice sock
                                Great for labor
15. Visit the chiropractor
16. Have you washed all the baby clothes?
17. Cook up and freeze some yummy dishes
18. Try something spicy :-P
19. Sudoku and crosswords and word searches
                         It's no fun to be stuck in bed but if you are, challenge your mind
20. Indulge in one small glass of red wine
21. Double check your bag if you're having a birth outside of your home
                                                   Did you remember the chapstick? Hair ties? 
22. Pick out the birth announcement
                                                      Do you need stamps?
23. Read some more blogs
24. Get lost in a good book
                                         http://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/must-read
25. Write a letter to your baby
26. Update your playlist
                                   Play some tunes for baby too :-)
27. Learn a lullaby
28. Buy a pack of diapers
                                      You can never have too many.
29. Walk around the mall or grocery store.
30. Call up a friend
31. Find a local La Leche League meeting
                                                               http://www.llli.org/
32. Have sex!
33. Install the carseat with the local fire department.
                                                                           http://www.nhtsa.gov/
34. Do you have a postpartum doula yet?  Friends and family ready to lend a hand?
35. Read positive birth stories.
36. Meditate
37. Learn to knit
38. Decorate the nursery with a belly cast!
39. Go Dancing
                     Even if it's just a wiggle
40. Get your hair done
                                 The shampoo is the best part :-)
41. Practice your relaxation techniques with timed 'contractions'
42. Get your nails done
                                 A manicure this time
43. Make a birthDay cake!
45. Get the facts
            Do your research and know why it's best (in a healthy pregnancy) to let baby pick his/her birth day!
46. Bake some cookies
47. Take the time to enjoy this part of the Jouney of Life!
48. Add to this list!

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Jennifer Valencia | Labor & Postpartum Doula | 928.300.1337

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